Post by JCsMomma on May 21, 2005 20:18:26 GMT -5
ok ladies.. this is an extremely difficult topic for me.. but I feel like you all will understand and won't give me a hard time.. and I also feel that it is time to let go of it..
ever since I can remember I have wanted to be a mom. When I was 16, my dr told me I would never have children due to various health problems I had. Needless to say, I was devastated. After I got married, I started to attend a church that taught on healing. In a class one morning, a woman shared a scripture with me from Exodus saying that your womb will no longer be barren. She didn't even know me! Long story short, despite of what the drs said and many other things.. I gave birth to Joshua almost a year to the day after that encounter!
I wanted to breastfeed my babies sooo badly. I had a c-section because of a full placenta previa, chronic hypertension and gestational diabetes. Josh was in the NICU for a week.. 4 days went by before he was able to take anything by mouth due to breathing issues. He was fed intraveniously (sp). We had a hard time with positioning and him latching on.. I tried every 2 hours with him in the hospital.. and after 2 1/2 days when he lost more weight we went ahead and gave him formula.
But I still tried to nurse as well.... I was up every 2 hours for nearly a month nursing him or trying to pump. The most I ever was able to get was 15ml. I was exhausted. I was separated from my husband at the time and he was in New Jersey while I was in Florida. I was living with my mom and she was working full time. Josh was an extremely collicky baby.. so I was a wreck! I cried all of the time and felt like such a failure. I feel like I let him down.. Other moms would berate me for formula feeding when it wasn't the "right" way. The leche league was no help and the lactation department at the hospital kept losing my number.. they finally called me 4 months after I returned the pump I rented from them to see how we were doing...
to this day I still get teary eyed when I think of or see other mom's who were able to experience this wonderful part of being a mommy..
After all of this.. when my husband and I were reconciling and we were going to have Christopher.. I made the decision to not even go there again. It was too overwhelming and painful. I must admit that there are times.. even thought I know it is not true and it is a bunch of lies.. that somehow I have failed my babies..
when I needed my body to nourish my children, it failed me.
How do I get past this once and for all?
Wow.. I had no intention of going here at all tonight so I am sorry it is so heavy.. but it must be time to deal with it...
thank you in advance for your insight...
ever since I can remember I have wanted to be a mom. When I was 16, my dr told me I would never have children due to various health problems I had. Needless to say, I was devastated. After I got married, I started to attend a church that taught on healing. In a class one morning, a woman shared a scripture with me from Exodus saying that your womb will no longer be barren. She didn't even know me! Long story short, despite of what the drs said and many other things.. I gave birth to Joshua almost a year to the day after that encounter!
I wanted to breastfeed my babies sooo badly. I had a c-section because of a full placenta previa, chronic hypertension and gestational diabetes. Josh was in the NICU for a week.. 4 days went by before he was able to take anything by mouth due to breathing issues. He was fed intraveniously (sp). We had a hard time with positioning and him latching on.. I tried every 2 hours with him in the hospital.. and after 2 1/2 days when he lost more weight we went ahead and gave him formula.
But I still tried to nurse as well.... I was up every 2 hours for nearly a month nursing him or trying to pump. The most I ever was able to get was 15ml. I was exhausted. I was separated from my husband at the time and he was in New Jersey while I was in Florida. I was living with my mom and she was working full time. Josh was an extremely collicky baby.. so I was a wreck! I cried all of the time and felt like such a failure. I feel like I let him down.. Other moms would berate me for formula feeding when it wasn't the "right" way. The leche league was no help and the lactation department at the hospital kept losing my number.. they finally called me 4 months after I returned the pump I rented from them to see how we were doing...
to this day I still get teary eyed when I think of or see other mom's who were able to experience this wonderful part of being a mommy..
After all of this.. when my husband and I were reconciling and we were going to have Christopher.. I made the decision to not even go there again. It was too overwhelming and painful. I must admit that there are times.. even thought I know it is not true and it is a bunch of lies.. that somehow I have failed my babies..
when I needed my body to nourish my children, it failed me.
How do I get past this once and for all?
Wow.. I had no intention of going here at all tonight so I am sorry it is so heavy.. but it must be time to deal with it...
thank you in advance for your insight...